Thursday, September 30, 2021

The Strip-Mall Ride

Ring Road. I mean, come on!
One of the things that I liked the most about my virtual challenges was that I chose famous treks that showed some of the most beautiful landscape in the world. Though I may have been working out by sitting in my bedroom, on my spin bike, by walking around my neighbourhood or around the house, or better—by kayaking on lakes and rivers or cycling around Eastern Ontario, I enjoyed seeing where I was, virtually, by covering the same distance in far-off countries.

As soon as my distances from my workouts were entered in The Conqueror Virtual Challenges app, I would see where I was, virtually, on Google Maps. I could even go to the street view, on most challenges, and virtually wander the neighbourhoods.

I loved seeing northern Spain in my first challenge, the Camino de Santiago, and followed it up with a longer trek over England and Scotland. My first disappointment was Germany's Romantic Road, where Google's street view was unavailable for about 99 percent of the trek.

What I love about these challenges is that at the end of a workout, I could see the nearest village, town, or city, or wonder at a vista that exhibited the beauty of a country. I totally fell in love with Iceland when I travelled (virtually) the Ring Road, and I'm even planning an actual visit, sometime next year, to experience that beauty in real life.

I expect to take some fabulous photographs.

My latest challenge is the 3,669.8 km trek along America's old Route 66, which runs from Chicago, Illinois, to Santa Monica, California. To date, I've covered about 950 kms and am near the Missouri-Kansas border. I'm only a quarter of my way into my virtual journey.

Taco Bell and McD's. Yawn.
But I have to say, as much as I still like accumulating distances and seeing where I virtually am on the map, I find that the street views are downright boring. I'm either on a flat stretch of highway or passing a strip mall. I can't tell you how many McDonald's or Arby's or Taco Bell restaurants I've passed.

I understand that because the United States is such a large country, there will be patches of nothing between communities. Where most of my previous challenges had villages spaced less than 10 kms apart, I often have to travel more than 20 to 30 kms between small points of interest along Route 66. But when I do come across a populated area, I'm faced with the same, boring views.

More strip malls.

I'm looking forward to when I finally head further west and reach deserts and mountains. In 2016, my family actually visited Arizona and we travelled along old parts of Route 66, in Flagstaff. Flagstaff was an interesting town, and I'm looking forward to seeing it again, although virtually.

I'm sure the town had strip malls but I don't remember seeing any.

This virtual challenge will take me until the beginning of 2022 to reach the Pacific Ocean, but I'm hoping that I can extend some bike rides to get ahead of schedule. If there's not much more to Route 66 than small towns with strip malls, it'll be one of the only treks that I've done virtually, that I'd never want to do in real life.

Monday, September 27, 2021

Being Joyful

Canadian singer-songwriter Matthew Good sang it best:

Oh be Joyful!
Cos that shit spreads

He also sings to "Live your life outside the life you know." I think he means that you should broaden your horizons, to move outside of your comfort zone.

For the most part, I'm a bit of a sceptic but I strive to be optimistic. I hope for the best but I'm cautious and have my doubt. I guess that's why, when I was younger and used to play the role-playing game, Dungeons & Dragons, my characters were almost always of a chaotic-neutral alignment.

In real life, I see myself as chaotic-neutral. With a bit of neutral-good mixed in.

For several months, I've begun following a bunch of positive-minded individuals on Twitter. Sure, I've followed countless positive people on the social-media site for years, but these new peeps don't rant or rage.

And if they do, it's rare.

There are so many people who I follow on Twitter who inspire me with their positivity but too many to mention all at once. And I wouldn't want to mention a mere few without feeling that I'm excluding the others. But I would like to give a shout-out to one person who infuses good vibes into all of his tweets: Pepe Valencia. Thanks for your optimism and joy.

Matt Good is right: being joyful is contagious.

To that end, I've tried to be more positive in my tweets. I have a long way to go and still rant every once and awhile, but I'm trying to stop that. I'm trying to make sure that my positive tweets outnumber my critical ones.

I've also started a ritual on Twitter: I start every day with a greeting and a positive thought. I ask my followers how they're doing with a "G'morning, peeps. How are you now?"

Now  you might think that my "How are you now?" is a nod to the characters in the show, Letterkenny, but it's actually homage to my father-in-law, who is no longer with us. Whenever I answered the phone and he was on the other end, this question was the first thing I heard.

My last tweet of the night, when I can think of it, is, "G'night, peeps." I also inject a positive wish, such as "Sleep well" or something along those lines. I'm finding that by leaving a positive note on my Twitter account, I feel any stress or anxiety, which I may be carrying, ease. I go to bed feeling pretty good.

Oh, be joyful. Because that shit spreads.

Just like that.

Friday, September 24, 2021

Night Skies

Let's get one thing clear right at the start: I know it's a crappy photo.

I know that the exposure is all wrong and that parts of the moon are out of focus. This post isn't about the photo. This is not a Photo Friday.

This photo of the moon was an experiment. I just wanted to see if such a photo could be captured with my smartphone.

You see, in August, I reached my fifteenth anniversary with my company. It's quite a milestone. With the exception of my relationship with DW and my kids, I've never been committed to anything else for this long.

(Okay, there are hobbies that I've had for decades and friends I've had for most of my life, but you get the gist.)

For this milestone anniversary, my company sent me a catalog of items, from which I could choose one thing as a thank you for my years of dedicated service. There were sets of luggage, tools, watches, cookware, and many more things that were available, but only one thing really stood out.

A spotting scope.

I've always wanted a telescope. I love looking up at the night sky and identifying the constellations, picking out the planets. I've often told myself that someday, I'd have a powerful telescope that would allow me to see Jupiter and its moons, to see the rings around Saturn, or to discern a star cluster in Orion's belt.

I would also be able to see the moon, up close and personal.

With this telescope, I'd also be able to apply an adapter that would allow me to connect a D-SLR and take sharp, stunning photographs of celestial bodies. And while I've always wanted such a telescope, the frugal side of me says that spending that much money is a real luxury, one that I could never justify.

The spotting scope in the catalog is mainly for bird watching, but I imagined that I could also use it for stargazing. It had a 40x to 60x zoom magnification, so I thought I could at least see some of our planets a bit closer. And if it wasn't good enough for night skies, I could always use it for its intended use: watching birds.

If I didn't like it, I could always sell it.

Last weekend, I finally took it out for its first test. DW and I were joining our friend, who owns a farm out near Plantagenet. I knew that there was going to be almost a full moon, and I also knew that both Jupiter and Saturn would be visible with the naked eye.

How would they appear with the spotting scope?

The moon was easy to find through the scope, which I mounted on my heaviest D-SLR tripod. At 40x magnification, it was huge, and at 60x, it filled the scope's circumference. But at maximum magnification, I had to constantly recentre the moon, as it was continuously moving out of the circular frame. At about 50x magnification, I was able to view it for about 10 to 15 seconds before I had to reposition the scope.

The next-brightest object in the sky was Jupiter, which took some searching before I could see it through the scope. The gas giant was extremely bright, but what surprised me the most was that I could also count about four or five of its moons, shining just as brightly. Jupiter wasn't quite sharp but I could at least make out some definition of colours.

Next, and hardest to capture in the scope was Saturn. But when I did get it in view, I was shocked to see the rings so clearly that I could detect a dark ring as well as the bright ones. Again, the image wasn't sharp but it was clear enough to know what I was looking at.

Back to watching the moon, I wondered if I could capture an image if I held my smartphone to the eyepiece. The biggest challenge was moving the smartphone camera lens so that it was centered in the eyepiece. By the time I had the moon on my phone's screen, I'd have to reposition the scope.

I then tapped on the screen to have the camera focus on the moon. I manually turned down the brightness and tapped the shutter release.

Holding the phone securely to the eyepiece, naturally, caused vibration. The chances of capturing a sharp image this way was about the same as hand-holding a D-SLR with a 300mm lens and trying to capture a similarly sharp image. You just can't do it.

I have learned that there is an adapter that I can purchase for my spotting scope that will allow me to attach my Nikon cameras. I just may invest in it.

But I'm also thinking that I just might want to invest in a proper telescope. If I really want to capture sharp images of the cosmos, why shouldn't I do it right?

Stay tuned.

Thursday, September 23, 2021

Road Tax

Like so many road cyclists, I've had my share of people who pull up along side me, roll down their windows, and scream at me to get off the road. I've had assholes get ahead of me, only to put two wheels onto the shoulder to kick up dirt and gravel.

I've had idiots tell me that they don't pay their "road tax" to share said roads with cyclists.

There's no such thing as a road tax, and if there is (provincial and municipal tax?), I pay just as much as drivers do.

These drivers are boneheads and for the most part, I can ignore them. But there are other problems that I face when I'm on my bike that are sometimes hard to avoid.

Potholes.

There are a lot of roads in the city and outskirts that are really, poorly maintained. Some have no paved shoulder, and that's okay as long as the roads themselves are in decent shape, though some have edges that are cracked up, to the point where the edges have crumbled into the shoulder. Usually, these roads aren't as bad for motorized vehicles, but if you're a cyclist, you often find yourself moving further out into the road and into the way of traffic.

Some roads do have paved shoulders, and I tend to seek these out. With a paved shoulder, I can easily put myself further out from the white line on the sides of the roads, which means that a passing car or truck does not have to move into the centre line to pass me. Good for me: good for them.

But there are some of these paved shoulders that are in really bad shape. Some are covered in dirt or scattered with bits of gravel, or worse—shards of glass and twisted pieces of metal. When I encounter this sort of debris, I'm forced to move out into the lane to avoid it, possibly putting myself in danger.

There are also some roads where the paved shoulders are riddled with potholes. And not just fist-sized potholes: I'm talking crater-sized potholes, that could easily hide furry animals or small children.

Take Fallowfield Road, in the southwest end of Ottawa, between Moodie Drive and Steeple Hill Crescent, near the village of Fallowfield. If you're cycling westbound, you have to pay close attention to the shoulder. There's a lot of gravel strewn along it. There are potholes so big that if they were on the main part of the road, drivers would be up in arms.

And, along this stretch of road, the posted speed limit is 80 kph, of which many drivers exceed.

On Sunday, DW and I were cycling along this stretch of road, on our way to Stittsville. DW was close behind me, and because she was so close, she had to take her cues of where to move based on where I put my bike.

I was weaving all over the shoulder, avoiding debris, rocks, and mostly, potholes. As I passed the turn-in for Monaghan Forest, I saw a lot of gravel on the outer part of the shoulder, so I moved closer to the car lane. But as I moved out, I saw a massive pothole directly in front of me, and the road-side of the painted white line was also in bad shape.

Because there were fast-moving cars coming up from behind us, I couldn't move further out into the road, so I tried to squeeze between the pothole and the scattering of gravel. And that's when I saw it: another large pothole.

At this point, there was little I could do: I stood on my pedals, lifting my butt from my seat. I pulled up on my handlebars so that my front wheel could jump the hole. I didn't have time to warn DW: I could only let out a yelp.

My back wheel hit the pothole hard. I could feel the sharp jar through my body. My upper and lower teeth smashed together and vibrated throughout my jaw. With the front wheel cleared of the hole and firmly back on the ground, I saw a small black object flying up in front of me and head toward the overgrown ditch. My trajectory was straight into gravel, and as I fought to slow down, down I went.

DW also hit the pothole, but because she saw my last-minute swerve and heard my yelp, she didn't seem to hit the hole as hard. She was mostly focused on me, making sure I was all right.

"My phone has flown off my bike," I said, getting to my feet. I was a bit shaken but was thankfully able to unclip a shoe from my pedal before I hit the ground, and I slid more than I fell.

I have a phone holder that is mounted on my bike. I've had it for many years and through three or four smartphones. As the length of newer phones have increased, the holder has now become stretched to its maximum for my current phone. It holds snugly, but as I had just learned, if my bike receives a powerful blow, the holder will launch my phone.

I put my bike down on the slope of the ditch, away from traffic, and looked back at the tall growth between the potholes and where the marks my tires had left in the gravel had begun. Somewhere, in there, my phone was hiding from me.

Luckily, my watch has a find-my-phone app, which pings my smartphone. My phone makes a loud noise, like a high-pitched radar blip. Immediately, I could hear the sound, but with the traffic moving, it took a few moments to pinpoint its location.

It's not our falls that define us: it's how we get back up and carry on that does.

With my phone back in its holder and myself dusted off, we continued our ride. DW, thankfully, was no worse for wear, though she did say that she nearly slammed into the back of me.

Our city really needs to maintain our roads. And that includes our paved shoulders. I have logged a report with the city, citing the location of these hazards.

There is no road tax. We all pay the same taxes. And because we do, cyclist should be shown the same consideration as drivers do. We deserve to have safe places to ride upon.

Tuesday, September 21, 2021

Talon Chute

I'm falling way behind on my Brown Knowser videos. I haven't posted anything on my YouTube channel in three months, though I've recorded lots of videos.

DW and I went on three camping trips this summer: we paddled along the Mattawa River system at Samuel de Champlain Provincial Park; we slid down water slides in Algonquin Provincial Park; and we've kayaked and hiked around Killarney Provincial Park and on Georgian Bay. And on all of those occasions, my video cameras (yes, plural) were running.

It takes a long time to download each video clip and edit it, let alone putting all of the clips together in a production, and my time gets filled with writing, photography, and cycling. Oh, and then there's my full-time job.

But I'll get there. I'm currently putting together our vacation at Samuel de Champlain Provincial Park. I'm hoping to be finished in the next couple of weeks. Or at least by the end of October.

In the meantime, here's an unedited clip that I shot, from my smartphone, at Talon Chute. It's a waterfall along the Mattawa River. We kayaked from Pimisi Bay to the base of the falls, passing through a canyon to get there. It's quite a spectacular end to our paddle.


Stay tuned for the full video. I'll share it here when it's ready.

Monday, September 20, 2021

Election Day

As brief as this election period has been, it seems like it has been the angriest and most hateful in memory.

Cycling around the Nepean and Carleton ridings, I've seen a lot of destruction of and graffiti on candidate signs. I've seen other signs by third-party organizations who have voiced their distaste for candidates, and it makes me sad.

We need to return to a civil state of society. Shouting obscenities and throwing rocks are unacceptable acts. They say more about you than the people for which you feel distain.

I hope that no matter your political stripe, you do get out and vote. Don't think your voice doesn't matter: it does. Don't think that you can't make a difference: you can.

Don't tell yourself there is no point in voting because you don't like Party A or Party B; that you like Party C, but there's no point in voting because they don't stand a chance of winning in your riding. Maybe they won't and maybe they will. But either way, voting for them shows your support and the party will earn money because of your vote.

If you don't like anybody, go out and vote anyway. Scratch your ballot or decline it. That's still having your say.

If we vote, perhaps we can actually end up with the government that we deserve.

But if we don't cast our ballot, we also end up with the government that we deserve. Just not necessarily the government that we want.

Vote.

Friday, September 17, 2021

Friday Fiction: Fight or Flight

The following is a (very) rough-draft excerpt from my upcoming novel, Gyeosunim, the sequel to Songsaengnim: A Korea Diary. Be warned that there are spoilers and you may be missing some context.

Friday, July 24, 1998

“Do you have any close friends in the Canadian embassy? Do you think they’d be able to get me out of the country at a moment’s notice?”

Naomi worked in a building in Myeong-dong that held the offices of the Australian and Canadian embassies, as well as the First Canadian Bank. Every Friday, after work, the Australian Embassy held a party and opened up a bar, where the beer and spirits flowed freely. Naomi had invited me, once, and I saw Canadians and Aussies mixing and mingling. Naomi had suggested that I subdue my Scottish brogue, as a few of the older Australian staff had strong feelings against the U.K., Scotland included.

Generally nice folk, though.

“Have you killed someone, Roland?”

“Of course not.”

“Relax, sweetie, I was only teasing. What’s got you wound up?” She had answered her phone in the office, which I had never called before. That was her first alarm bell. The two questions I asked, in quick succession, were bells two and three. Naomi knew something was wrong.

“I’m being scammed and the police might become involved. I haven’t broken any laws but before the shit starts flying, I’d like to be out of here.” I explained to her what had happened since my accident, which was also news to her.

“How soon were you thinking you wanted to leave?”

“As soon as I finish teaching my last class, this afternoon, I’m catching the first bus to Seoul. I know you weren’t expecting me until tomorrow but I’m hoping you’ll let me stay with you tonight.” I visited my friend—Kristen’s best friend—at least once a month. Though she had colleagues and acquaintances in Seoul, she admitted that she hadn’t formed any strong relationships, and counted on my company whenever I could spare a visit. She had asked to visit me, in Chŏnju, but with a one-room apartment and a bed on the floor, I really didn’t have appropriate accommodation for her.

“I can drop my plans,” she said.

“Don’t be silly. I probably won’t get to your place until after ten. If your plans run later, I can find something to do until you’re free.”

“My plans will be done before ten,” she said. “I’ll be home, waiting for your arrival. In the meantime, did you want me to contact someone at the embassy?”

“Maybe not just yet,” I said, “but if you know someone you can call on the weekend, have his or her number handy.”

“I’ll call my friend and let him know your story. He can advise me and be ready, if need be.”

“Thanks, Naomi, you’re a godsend. I’ll see you tonight.”

***

The husband called the office while I was preparing for my final class of the week, if not for all time. “He says he’ll accept two-million won for the hospital bill and the lost contract,” said Chul-won, who was holding the handset of the phone.

“He’s negotiating? Is his wife still there?”

After some translation, Chul-won said, “No, they are at home. He says he paid the bill.”

“Strange how they couldn’t afford the original ninety thousand but could pay ten times the amount.” On the ride in the taxi, I had told Chul-won of my conversation with the doctor and my suspicions of the scam. At the time, I voiced how she was the only patient who was wearing street clothes, rather than a hospital gown, and how her bed had been made. She had been reading a book while her husband was watching TV, as though they were simply killing time until I had arrived. Had they only just arrived before me, I wondered.

My final class was in the library building with a couple of advanced, fluent English students. We worked from a conversational English book, similar to one I had used with advanced students at the hagwon. Today’s subject was Work Ethics, and one of my students, Pak Jae-hyun, who was previously a student of mine from Kwon’s hagwon, was familiar with this subject, having discussed it with me before. But today, he seemed to be in a mood to stir up controversy.

“Would you say, Lolan-duh Gyeosunim, that Koreans are the hardest workers in the world?”

“Why would you say that?” I asked.

“Because Koreans arrive to work early and stay late.”

“Arrive at work,” I corrected, “but all that means is that they stay in the office for a long time. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they work harder.” I thought of two of the faculty in my department, mainly some of the teachers who hung out across the hall from my office, with our secretary, Kyeong-eun, and seemed to simply read newspapers all day; that is, when they weren’t listening to Korean radio or napping. I knew Kyeong-eun was busy but I honestly had no idea what they did or even if they taught any classes, as they were always in that room, near the central heater, whenever I dropped by. They spent a lot of time on campus, but how productive were they?

“Oh no, they work very hard,” persisted Jae-hyun.

“Are you saying that I don’t work hard?” He knew my work ethic from the hagwon and he knew of the long hours I had spent during the mid-term exams, when I had met with a steady flow of students from morning to evening, with my only breaks being for lunch, bathroom, or when students didn’t arrive at their allotted time.

Jae-hyun laughed.

“Be careful,” I said, wagging a finger at him. “Your grade rides on your answer.”

He knew I was joking, of course, but I couldn’t get the feeling that he was trying to provoke me. What sort of conversation did he want to engage in?

The other student,Choi Ji-woo, intervened. “It doesn’t matter if you are Korean or Canadian. It’s your character that determines if you are a hard worker.” Ji-woo had lost her job due to the economic crisis, and if her diligence at studying was any indication, she didn’t lose her job for not working hard.

As with most of the topics in the textbook, we used them as a jumping point to start all sorts of conversations. We talked about the International Monetary Fund and speculated on how long it would take South Korea to recover from the financial meltdown. Both of my students were optimistic, citing the still-strong automotive industry. Hyundai was still solvent and would likely lead the country out of ruin. The same with electronic giants LG and Samsung: these two companies had long-standing family ties, and would help each other survive, according to Ji-woo.

The conversation was a good distraction from my own crisis. Would I be leaving Korea this weekend or would I stay and defend myself from the scam that the doctor, the woman, and her husband had devised?

Running seemed the easy way out, especially if I had help from Naomi and the Canadian embassy. It won’t be like 1988, when I had to get out of Berlin. On that cold, wet night, I didn’t know who I could trust. Canadians or Brits, alike.

Thursday, September 16, 2021

Make 'Em Laugh

I find it especially sad to hear the news of a comedian who has passed away. Someone who has made you laugh over the years now strikes a sorrowful note.

It was George Carlin, with his juxtaposed wit and silliness, that once made me think that I would someday want to try my hand at comedy. Throughout high school, I was always trying to say or do something to make my friends laugh. (Were they laughing at my humour or just laughing at me?)

In 2014, we lost another comedy giant, Robin Williams. My family and I were in Paris when the news broke, and it was a solemn day in the City of Lights at a time when we were supposed to be enjoying ourselves.

Me, in 2017.
A few years later, I actually tried my hand at comedy, enrolling first in a sketch-comedy class and later, in a stand-up comedy class. I enjoyed the classes so much that I enrolled two more times for the stand-up comedy class.

Three sets of classes, and in the end I discovered that while I could have some funny moments and would make an audience laugh, I really wasn't that funny.

But I've never given up trying.

With the news of Canadian Norm Macdonald's passing, on Tuesday, I once again feel grief over someone who has made me laugh for many years. I had the good fortune of seeing Macdonald perform, several years ago, at Yuk Yuk's in Ottawa. His ability to make me laugh will be missed.

And thinking about comedy, I once again wonder if I should try to make people laugh one more time.

Monday, September 13, 2021

We're (Still) Not Sports Fans

Note: The title of this post is taken from one that I wrote in November, 2011.

The only time that DW and I watch sports seems to be when women are playing: we watched the final match of the Canadian women's soccer team against Sweden (it was the only competition that I allowed myself to watch of the 2021 Olympics) and we watch the Canadian women's hockey team whenever they play a final match.

But this Saturday, we watched the final match of the U.S. Open women's singles, against England's Emma Raducanu and Canada's Leylah Fernandez. We're not sports fans and we never follow tennis, but here we were.

DW searched all of our streaming services to find where we could watch the match, without success. The only way we could do it was to stream it from TSN, and we didn't have a subscription.

Until Saturday.

Saturday was a bit of a lazy day for the both of us. Neither of us had slept well: DW had awoken a few times and I had trouble drifting off to sleep in the first place. We had a very lazy morning, not even getting out of bed until almost 9:00.

"Let's cycle to Manotick," DW suggested. Just that evening before, I had completed my usual 40K ride to Kars and back, via Manotick. It's not a taxing ride for me but winds gusting from the northwest make the last half of the ride brutal.

I set no speed record and was tired when I pulled into the driveway. 

But I agreed to go for this Saturday-morning ride to Manotick because it's only 20K, round trip, and we were going to stop for breakfast in this small village.

When we returned home, I decided to change straight into shorts and a t-shirt to mow our lawns. Because I've been sick for the past couple of weeks, with Lyme disease, and before that, we were camping up in Killarney, our grass had gone almost a month without mowing. Thankfully, the heat and lack of rain meant that only the weeds had gotten out of control, but this weekend it was more than overdue for cutting.

When I had finished mowing the lawn, I was finished for the day. I was tired and didn't have the strength or desire to do anything else. DW was also tired, and decided that she wanted to watch the final match of the Women's U.S. Open.

Only, we couldn't get it without getting a subscription to TSN.

"Let's find a sports bar and watch it there," DW suggested.

"I'm too tired to go out," I said, "and I'm still not comfortable being indoors at a bar."

DW looked into the price of a one-month subscription. It was $19.99. "We could subscribe for a month," she said, "and it would be cheaper that going to a sports bar, anyway."

That's what we did.

Watching the match reminded me of a time that we took DW's dad to an Ottawa Senator's game, when they were playing against the Toronto Maple Leafs. I'd watch, and if the Sens performed a good play and scored a goal, I'd cheer. But I'd also cheer if the Leafs scored. I'd let out a gasp if a goal was missed, regardless of the team that missed the shot.

At one point in the match, one of the fans who was sitting in front of me turned around and asked me, "Whose side are you on?"

"Neither," I said. "I'm just enjoying the plays."

The same thing happened with Saturday's tennis match. Even though my heart told me that I should be rooting for Fernandez, I cheered whenever there was a good volley, no matter who gained the point or advantage. I don't even fully understand the rules to tennis, so all I was doing was watching two young women play their hearts out, giving it all they had.

And even though I felt sorry for Fernandez when she lost, I felt happy for Raducanu. She was strong throughout the match and deserved her victory.

I now have nearly a full month of TSN. I'm pretty sure it'll never be streamed again.

Still, cheaper than going to a sports bar.

Friday, September 10, 2021

Friday Fiction: Fallout

© Ross Brown
The following is a (very) rough-draft excerpt from my upcoming novel, Gyeosunim, the sequel to Songsaengnim: A Korea Diary. Be warned that there are spoilers and you may be missing some context.


Thursday, July 16, 1998

The call came through at nearly half-past three. Chul-won listened for some time and then translated for me. “She has three stitches in her ankle,” he said. “She has very little money and cannot afford the cost.”

“How much is it?” I asked. Even though it was the woman who had run out from the front of the bus and into me, I understood that it was the driver of the vehicle who was typically at fault. Linda, a teacher from Kwon’s hagwon, had told me that she learned this from one of her students, who explained it to her after she had witnessed an accident and told her class about it.

The student said that the biggest vehicle is usually most at fault. He then joked with her: “If you ever hit a pedestrian with a car, be hopeful that you killed them and nobody saw. And then, get out of there.”

After Chul-won spoke some more on the phone, he said to me, “She says the bill is ninety-thousand won.” Less than one hundred Canadian dollars. I could certainly afford that. The repair to my scooter was twenty-thousand won and a replacement face shield for the helmet was another ten thousand. The cost of the crash was starting to add up, but it wasn’t astronomical. I was still unable to retrieve the tiny piece of stone from my hand.

“Tell her to let me know when she needs me to pay it and I can meet her. Or, better yet, she can come to our office and I’ll pay her then. Tell her to bring the bill with her so that you can confirm the amount.”

Chul-won translated and then hung up. “She said she’ll call back.”

“Thank you for your help, Chul-won. I hope the matter is settled quickly.”

***

Friday, July 24, 1998

The phone on Chul-won’s desk rang just as I was gathering material to head to a class. “It’s the woman from the accident,” he said as I rose from my own desk to head out of the office. “She says she’s still in the hospital.”

“What?” I said, incredulous. “She went in more than a week ago. Why is she still there?”

Chul-won spoke and then listened as the answer was provided. “She says the hospital won’t release her until the bill is paid.”

“That’s ridiculous. For three stitches? They kept her in the hospital for more than a week for three stitches? Why didn’t she have me come last Thursday?”

More translations. More listening. More speaking. I don’t know what I would have done if it weren’t for the help of Chul-won. After a while, he asked me, “Can you go to the hospital today to pay the bill?”

“Tell her that I can be there for two o’clock. Please find out where she is.”

“I can go with you to translate. This sounds suspicious to me,” said Chul-won. He spoke into the phone, wrote down some details, and hung up.

“Thank you for your help, Chul-won. I’d be helpless without you.”

“It’s my pleasure. Now, go teach and don’t worry.”

Teaching was the easy part. Not worrying was a whole different matter.

***

We arrived at a small hospital, no bigger than the clinic that my private student, Goh Jae-eun, owned. Doctor Goh was the student that I inherited from Jamie, after he and Jodi returned to the United States. But unlike Doctor Goh’s clinic, there was no pharmacy on the ground floor, only a reception area and offices, and a hall that seemed to lead to an OR. A few people sat in a large waiting area, some badly bandaged and others wearing masks, presumably protecting others from whatever ailment was troubling them. I had learned, in more than a year of seeing Koreans walking the streets donning cloth masks, that, as a courtesy to their fellow citizens, people covered up if they felt unwell. Seeing that as a good idea, I had purchased a similar mask from Kwon’s pharmacy. So far, I hadn’t felt the need to wear it, as I had only suffered a few sniffles over my stay and a couple of bouts of food poisoning. But at the first signs of something more serious, I would don the mask.

Chul-won led us to the reception desk and spoke to a pretty woman who was sitting on the other side. He explained the reason for our visit and she nodded before picking up her phone and punching a couple of buttons. After a short exchange, she hung up and spoke to Chul-won again, who gave his typical nod and a hum.

“The doctor will come to see us in a few minutes,” he told me.

I looked around the waiting area, trying to find the woman that ran out in front of my scooter, but there was only one woman in the waiting room, and she had several decades on my victim.

“I wonder where the woman is,” I said. “When we said the time that we’d be here, I would have expected that she’d be raring to leave.”

“Mmm, perhaps she is with the doctor,” suggested Chul-won.

“Perhaps.”

She was not with the doctor. We waited for fewer than five minutes when a middle-aged man in a white lab coat and glasses came to greet us. His dark hair was full and brushed straight back, and his tall and portly state was carried with confidence. His face was expressionless and businesslike. He was a man who wanted to be taken seriously and treated with respect. He introduced himself as Doctor Lee and spoke English.

“Would you like to see the patient?” he asked.

“Yes,” I said, “where is she?”

“In her room, in bed.” He led us to a stairwell and we began climbing the stairs.

“In bed? I was told she received three stitches for her injury.”

“Yes. I also have her on a round of antibiotics to control any infection.”

I thought of the injuries that I had sustained in my lifetime, and my hand instinctively went to my chest. I also looked at the wrist of that hand, which still showed a faint scar from when I was a young child in North Berwick. I was with Billy Gentleman and we were racing our bikes along Rotary Way, a narrow pathway along Elcho Green, the park along East Bay Beach, not far from my house. We were going far too fast for the path, especially with small sailing crafts on trailers parked on the grass, on either side of the path, awaiting the weekend’s regatta. As I passed a dinghy to my right, a man about the age of my dad, who was standing next to it and with his back to me, took a step backwards and into my path. As I swerved to avoid him, I collided with Billy and his bike, and we both lost control and veered off the path. I struck another dinghy on my left, hitting its rudder full-on.

“Oy,” cried the man who had nearly backed into me. “Watch where you’re going, lad.” He walked to where I was pulling myself up and checked the rudder for damage. I had held my arm out to protect myself and my wrist had taken the force of the impact.

As I stood up and reached for my bike, a line of blood ran from my fourth finger, up over the back of my hand, and under the sleeve of my navy jumper. Lifting the sleeve, a three-centimetre gash on my arm, just past the wrist, showed peeled skin and bare bone. Both Billy and the man let out a gasp. The man grabbed a handkerchief from his pocket and immediately wrapped it around the wound.

“I’ll go fetch yer ma,” cried Billy, who turned his bike around and pedaled toward my home.

“What’s yer mum going to do?” said the man, applying pressure to my wound.

“She’s a doctor.” My knees were going weak and I started to drop to the ground, but the man scooped me in his arms and began to walk quickly toward Beach Road, cutting between the parked crafts.

Five stitches later and my incision properly plastered, I had stories to tell my mates for days on end. My mother had thoroughly disinfected the wound when we reached her clinic and I received no antibiotics. By dinnertime, I was back to my old self, though it would be another week before I felt confident to climb onto my bike again.

We reached the second floor of the clinic and the doctor led us down a poorly lit hallway, where patients smoked in the hallway and soiled linen overflowed from equally soiled bins. We entered a small room with three beds, all occupied by patients either sleeping or being tended by a nurse, or reading. The woman with the cut ankle was the third one, dressed in grey and white striped pantsuit. She was sitting on top of the bed, which was made. She saw me and started to smile. Sitting beside her bed was a man who was watching the small television that was attached to the wall at the foot of the woman’s bed. I assumed that he was the woman’s husband.

Annyong haseyo,” I greeted the woman. She immediately started speaking quickly, smiling and looking at me, but Chul-won was next to me, listening intently. Halfway through her speech, Chul-won raised his hands and interrupted her, seemingly asking her a question but with a tone of surprise. The woman’s smile stopped and she gave my translator her full attention. All the while, the woman’s husband remained silent, fully engrossed in the program he was watching.

After a short exchange, Chul-won turned to me. “She says the cost of her hospital stay is now nine-hundred-thousand won.”

“What?” I said. I looked from Chul-won to the woman. “I agreed to pay for her ninety-thousand-won procedure. Not ten times that amount.” I said ninety thousand won in Hangul, just to be sure that the woman understood me. I turned my attention to the doctor. “Why did she need to be in the hospital all this time? She only needed the stitches, perhaps something for the pain. She should have been home.”

“Are you a doctor?” the doctor asked.

“Of course not. But I have experience with stitches.” For emphasis, I held up my wrist. With my skin tanned from the summer sun, the thin pink line was more visible.

“I’m the doctor and I decide what’s best. My patient needed rest and antibiotics.”

“Rest, she could get at home, I’m sure. As for antibiotics, she could also take them at home.”

“She could not inject them herself.”

“Injections? Why wasn’t she given tablets to take? Who gets antibiotic injections?”

“Again, I am her doctor and I make the decisions.” Clearly, he was not accustomed to having anyone question his decisions.

It was at this moment that the husband decided to join the conversation, and he rose from his chair as he spoke, his voice both whining and forceful. He caught Chul-won off-guard but my colleague kept his calm demeanor. While the husband continued his rant, Chul-won dismissed the rant and turned to me. “He says that because he was worried about his wife, he missed winning a contract and wants you to pay him one-and-a-half-million won. Plus the hospital fees.” He listened more, as the man continued to speak. “He says we should go to the police station to make a report.”

“This is crazy,” I said. “Mee-chin!” I repeated to the ranting husband.

The doctor intervened. “May I speak to you, privately?” he asked me.

In the hallway, with poor Chul-won left dealing with the husband, his wife having gone back to her book, the doctor closed the door to give us a bit more privacy. “I think you should pay the bill and let everyone get back to their respective lives.”

“Your English is perfect,” I said, “did you live in the United States for long?”

He seemed derailed by my change of the subject but answered. “I studied in California. I spent ten years in Los Angeles.”

“Why did she need to stay in the hospital? We both know that a small incision that was closed with three stitches didn’t require even an overnight stay. I may not be a doctor but my mother is. She’s told me about patients who have required surgery but were only in hospital for a couple of days.”

“I needed to oversee that she received her antibiotic injections on time.”

“That’s another thing that I don’t understand. Why couldn’t you have prescribed pills? I’ve been on antibiotics several times over my life and not once were they delivered in a syringe.”

“You know,” he said, his voice low and unmistakably repressing anger and frustration, “if this had happened in America, it would cost you a lot more.”

Our eyes met and I could see everything clearly now. They saw me as an American, from the land of milk and honey. The doctor wasn’t just looking out for his patient: he was looking to fleece me. Had the woman even been spending the whole week in the hospital or had the doctor looked for an easy opportunity to milk an American for money? She was dressed in her own clothes, rather than the hospital gown that I had seen on every other patient I had encountered in these halls. She was pretty chipper and didn’t seem like she was bed-ridden.

I dropped my voice to match the doctor’s and locked eyes with him. “Here’s what’s going to happen, doctor. You see, I have a Korean friend who is a doctor. He is going to ask to see this patient’s medical record and make his own determination about whether she really required hospitalization for a small incision, and whether tablets could have done as good a job as injections. If my doctor friend decides that hospitalization was not required or that the antibiotics could have been delivered in tablet form, I will then go to another friend of mine, who owns a newspaper, and I will ask him to investigate you and your clinic. He loves a good investigative story that uncovers corruption.”

I continued to hold my gaze. Inside, however, I was trembling. I had no idea whether Doctor Goh would be able to request the woman’s records. And while I knew that no Canadian or Scottish hospital would keep a patient with this injury overnight, maybe things were done differently in Korea. But that made me think even more.

“And by the way, doctor, I’m from Canada. If this had happened there, it would have cost neither me nor the woman anything.”

The doctor blinked and turned his head away. I opened the door to the patient’s room and beckoned Chul-won. “Do we have to accompany them to the police station to file a report or can we do one on our own?”

“Yes,” he hummed, “we can make our own report.”

“Good,” I said. “Please tell the husband that that’s what we’re going to do. We’re out of here.”

“Will you pay the bill?” the doctor asked.

“I’m still prepared to pay the original amount of ninety-thousand won.”

The doctor fell silent. The husband, still ranting, fell silent long enough to listen to Chul-won translate my offer. As soon as he heard the amount, the rant started again. Chul-won told the husband that we would make our report separately, and we left. Both Chul-won and I left the hospital, and we took a taxi back to the university.

After all, we still had bigger responsibilities.

Thursday, September 9, 2021

Remembering a Chicago Legend

The first time I was in Chicago was in June of 2007, on a business trip. My company had a customer training centre in Franklin Park and I attended one of the courses in which the instructor and students used a manual that I had written. I was there to make sure that the procedures were easy to follow and to get feedback from the people in the class, and make any changes.

Though the training centre was in Franklin Park, I was put up in a residence inn much further out from downtown Chicago, in Lombard. To get downtown, I had to drive about 40 minutes along highways that were packed with motorists, but I didn't mind.

While my company had my undivided attention from 9 to 5, the evenings were mine and I was going to take in as much of the city as I could. I visited Grant Park, walked the Michigan Mile, enjoyed a single-malt scotch at the top of the Hancock Tower, and wandered the famous riverbanks and bridges.

I also checked out live music. Because the Chicago Blues Festival was running during my stay, I was able to see legendary singer Koko Taylor. I also visited Buddy Guy's Legends blues bar, where I was treated to a performance by Buddy's brother, Phil.

Phil Guy (left), June 2007.
During the intermission, I was lucky enough to chat with Phil for a few moments, and I told him that it would be great to see him perform at Ottawa's Bluesfest, to which he told me that he would love to go, but that he'd never been invited.

"For what it's worth," I said, "I'm inviting you." I suggested that his agent or manager make some inquiries, that Ottawa would love to have him. He said he'd do that.

Phil died, just over a year later, in August of 2008. While I never saw Phil perform at Bluesfest, I did see his brother at the Ottawa festival a year or so later.

I returned to Chicago, again, in 2009, and made another visit to Buddy Guy's Legends. I don't remember who was playing that night but the show was good, yet it wasn't as memorable as my first visit.

Chicago has been in my mind, recently, as I've participated in the Route 66 virtual challenge from The Conqueror Virtual Challenges. Having started the trek at Grant Park, I was in familiar territory. Wandering the streets, through Google street view from the app, I 'wandered' over to Buddy Guy's.

I could almost hear blues music coming through the doors.

Wednesday, September 8, 2021

Drive-In Days

It's been about 40 years since I've been to a drive-in theatre. A bunch of friends and I piled into my family's 1968 Volvo and headed to the Britannia Drive-In, on Carling Avenue, where the Cineplex Cinemas now lies.

Drive-ins were a great novelty and the Ottawa area had at least six: the Airport, Aladdin, Auto Sky, Britannia, Queensway, and Star-Top are the ones I remember. But what I also remember is that the screen was dark and it was sometimes hard to see what was going on if a scene in the movie was also dark. The speaker, which was a big box that you hung from the driver-side window, was often of poor quality sound.

But it was always fun to fill your car with friends to watch the latest blockbuster, and I loved the drive-in hot dogs. I always bought a hot dog at the drive-in.

In the 1980s, many of the drive-in theatres closed their gates and were torn down. The last of the drive-ins were gone by the late 1990s. For myself, I went to my last drive-in movie in my late teens.

Until this past weekend.

For this Labour Day weekend, DW wanted to see the latest Marvel movie, Shang-Chi and the Legend of the Ten Rings, starring Simu Liu, from one of our favourite sit-coms, Kim's Convenience. But because of the pandemic, neither she nor I have any interest in going to a movie theatre. As much as I wanted to see this film, I had surrendered to waiting until it was available for streaming.

But DW is seldom deterred, and after an online search, she discovered that the movie was playing as a double-bill at a drive-in theatre. The only drive-in theatre in Eastern Ontario.


The Port Elmsley Drive-In Theatre, situated between Smiths Falls and Perth, first opened in 1953, and apart from a three-year closure, from 1997 to 2000, it remains a popular venue to watch first-run movies under the stars. While the posts for the speaker system still stands, the speakers themselves are gone and viewers tune into an FM radio frequency and use the car's sound system to take it all in.

Not much can be done about dark scenes, as we still struggled to see what was going on in certain parts of the movie. But DW and I enjoyed the movie experience, anyway. The sound was good and the seats were comfortable.


And, I got a hot dog.

We stayed for the second movie, Free Guy, with Ryan Reynolds. (It was a Canadian lead double-bill.) But if I remembered anything from drive-ins of old, you have to start heading out before the credits roll, to avoid long lines in departing the lot. We left about two minutes before the closing music, and because we were tuned into a radio frequency, we could still hear the movie after we moved out of sight of the screen and were heading out on the roadway.

Would I do this again? Probably.

Even though Port Elmsley is nearly an hour away from home, it was worth the drive: both movies were enjoyable and because we spent more than five hours at the venue (you need to arrive about an hour before the box office opens to ensure you get a good spot and there was about a 10-minute intermission, plus previews and the main attractions), it was a proper outing.

But I doubt I would pack the car full of friends. We met up with one of our friends and her daughter, and we parked side-by-side. We brought folding chairs and socialized from the front of our respective vehicles until the previews came on, and again during the intermission.

What about you? When was the last time you were at a drive-in? Do you remember what you saw, and with whom you saw it? Would you drive out of the way to see a movie from the comfort of your vehicle? What are your thoughts about drive-in theatres?

Leave a comment.

Tuesday, September 7, 2021

Ticked Off

I can't remember the last time I had been this sick for this long.

I never noticed the tick bite but because we had been camping, and the deerflies and mosquitoes had already had their fair share of me, I may never have noticed, anyway. So there's no guarantee that the tick had even gotten to me on our camp trip to Killarney, though it's a pretty good guess.

Coming home, I felt pretty good, overall. We had done a lot of kayaking and hiking, and because I've been fairly active and fit over this year—with all of my virtual challenges—the four-day adventure only invigorated me more.

The weather in Ottawa, after our trip, was too hot for cycling. With the humidex in the high thirties to low fourties, it just wasn't safe to ride. And I was itching to ride because I hadn't done so since before Killarney, and I was used to cycling every other day. By the time the heat wave ended, on Friday, August 27, it was more than a week until I was able to get on my bike.

Because I had fallen behind in my current virtual challenge, the 3,670-kilometre Route 66 trek, from Chicago to Santa Monica, I wanted to get a good ride in, so I pedalled a little more than 60K through Manotick, Greely, Osgoode, Kars, and back. The ride was great, apart from two drivers who didn't seem to see me until the last minute (but I digress).

After my ride, I took a shower and as I was drying, I was hit by sudden chills and body aches, and not the kind of aches that I feel after a long ride, which can be worked out with some good stretching. Although it wasn't even nine o'clock in the evening, I put myself to bed.

I felt worse on Saturday, with a headache and extreme fatigue added to the aches and chills, but I took some time during the day to try to get a few chores done around the house. Or kids, after all, were moving to their respective colleges and universities on the coming Wednesday, and we had to make sure that they had everything they needed.

But I just didn't have the energy to put in more than a half hour at a time and would pass out on our sofa for a couple of hours before trying to pitch in again. By Saturday night, I was done.

DW suggested that perhaps I had picked up a variant strain of COVID-19, and perhaps I should get tested. I dismissed that notion: after all, besides being around her while we were camping and our kids, where would I have picked up COVID?

On Sunday, still feeling bad, I went to Brewer Park Community Centre to get the test.

On Monday, I was feeling a bit better, so I worked from home for the morning. But by noon, the chills were back in full swing and my energy was low (I had also not eaten much because I had no appetite), so I went back to bed. But not before my COVID test results had come back, and they were negative.

So what had its hold on me?

DW and I have a good friend who had contracted Lyme disease many years ago. It had gone for years, undiagnosed, and she was still suffering ill effects to this day. DW had been chatting with our friend and she said my symptoms, combined with the timeline of our camping and the incubation period, might point to Lyme. She suggested that this line of inquiry might be worth pursuing.

Now, I had discovered no red mark on my body—the tell-tale bull's eye—that pointed to a tick bite. I had, however, felt an isolated pain in my left calf, but had no bruising (I don't bruise easily, anyway). I had dismissed the pain as simply having bumped into something while hiking or kayaking, as it happens often enough.

On Tuesday morning, though, a red mark did appear on this spot and I wasn't feeling any better, so I decided that it might be a good idea to visit my doctor. But after calling my doctor and not being able to get any appointment that day, I told them I'd have to go to the hospital because I didn't think this could wait.

For the first time since before the pandemic started, I headed to the emergency department at the Queensway Carleton Hospital. Let me tell you, seeing people with lacerations, concussions, and broken bones, it opens your eyes to just how fragile we are and how life can deal us a bad hand. We need to be good to one another while we can, folks. We only have this one life to be our best.

I waited for more than six hours before a doctor saw me. At one point, with my chills and the hospital air conditioning, I was curled up in a ball, in my chair shivering. A nurse brought me a blanket and took my vitals, a second time, to make sure I was okay.

While I waited, I received texts from DW and a very good friend of mine who has battled Lyme disease for decades, who went with the disease, undiagnosed, for years before she had a sympathetic ear. She gave me all kinds of information to pass onto the doctor: she asked me to request an enzyme-linked immunosorbent assay (ELISA) test, though she said it would likely come back negative because it's not generally effective against early onset of Lyme. She said to ask for a Western blot test, which was more effective. She told me to insist on starting treatment right away, to get a prescription for an antibiotic (she suggested 100 mg of doxycycline, administered twice a day for 21 days).

She's not a doctor but she knows a lot about Lyme disease.

The actual doctor greeted me and asked me what the problem was, and I explained that I suspected I had Lyme disease. He then leaned against the wall, crossed one leg over the other, folded his arms, and in a condescending voice, asked, "What makes you think you have Lyme disease?" As though I was the tenth person, today, claiming to have the affliction.

I went through my symptoms: chills, aches, low-grade fever, extreme fatigue, loss of appetite. I told him that I had been camping for four days and had done lots of hiking and kayaking, that the region I was in has had reports of Lyme-carrying ticks. I hiked up my shorts to show him the red mark on my leg, but he barely looked at it.

I told him that I had been tested for COVID but that the test came back negative. I explained that I've been around my wife and kids, and none of them had exhibited any of my symptoms. Clearly, I wasn't spreading whatever I had.

The doctor was totally dismissive, even after I relayed all of the information that my friend had provided. At one point, I was tempted to fold my arms and ask him, "What makes you think I don't have Lyme disease?"

He took another look at my leg, but only long enough to take his pen and trace a circle around the edges of the red mark. "Monitor the rash to see if it gets any bigger, but I'm not prepared to prescribe antibiotics at this point." He reluctantly agreed to take some blood to test, but at this point, he was done with me.

By the time I got home, I was so worn out and so upset, I could only go to bed to rest. I didn't have the strength to help my kids assemble their belongings for their move, the next day.

On Wednesday, I was no better off but no worse. DW, knowing that there was no way I'd be able to make the trip to the Toronto, left with the girls and without me. It was heartbreaking to give my daughters hugs and wave from the driveway, but on the off-chance that I was contagious with a bug, spending five or more hours in a vehicle was the last thing any of them needed, especially our kids, who were about to start their school year.

As soon as my doctor's office opened, I called to see about an appointment with my doctor. She was booked solid for the day but there was a nurse practitioner in the clinic who would be able to meet over the phone with me. At that appointment, we went through my symptoms and the details of my camp trip. This time, I was armed with printouts from the Ontario Health guidelines for diagnosing and treating Lyme disease. The nurse, with a computer at her disposal, did the same.

Fifteen minutes later, the nurse had sent a prescription for doxycycline to my nearby pharmacy. One-hundred milligrams, taken twice a day, but for 10 days. I'm going to get an extension to 21 days.

At the time of publication, I'll have completed five days of the meds. By Saturday, they started kicking in and I had more energy—enough to try a 20K cycle to Manotick and back. Yesterday, I braved a 40K ride and was fine. Today, I'm back at work for the first time in more than a week.

Two weeks after my camping trip, I'm on the mend. And while I never saw the tick who bit me, this experience has taught me to always check myself from head to toe after being out in nature. If you find a tick, follow guidelines for removing it and keep it if you can. But if you feel any symptoms, don't let a dismissive doctor stop you from getting the answers you need.

Because Lyme disease really bites.

Thursday, September 2, 2021

Standing on Guard

I still wear a black t-shirt that I bought in 1998. Having bought it in a hot country, I've always been surprised at how thick the cotton on it is. The collar is still intact and there are no holes, and the print is only slightly faded, though still bright.

It reads "Amazing Thailand, 1998-1999."

Indeed, Thailand is amazing. DW and I visited twice, in 1998 and 1999. Highlights included Chiang Mai, in the north, Phuket and Ko Lanta, in the southwest, and Ko Pha Ngan, in the southeast.

And, of course, there's Bangkok.

The capital city was only starting its growth as a modern city, with huge skyscrapers beginning to stretch upward throughout the vast sprawl of low-rise buildings. The population, a staggering 6.27 million, was less than two-thirds of what it is today, and everywhere we went, we were faced by a crush of citizens.

We were eager to leave the city for the smaller towns and islands, away from the crowds. But while we were in Bangkok, we visited many of its temples, museums, and of course, the palace.

Dress codes were in effect at the palace. Shorts were prohibited, as were short skirts. Because of the heat, DW and I packed mostly shorts, though I did have one pair of black denim jeans and DW had a sarong that she could wrap around her shorts and cover her legs. These articles of clothing seemed to pacify the guards at the front gates and we were allowed in.

It wasn't until we saw the changing of the guard at the front of the main palace that I realized I was dressed in the same colours (or lack of colour) as the guards: 

Black pants. White top.


All I was missing were the black shoes, helmet, and the matching rifle. That's okay: he wore it better.

Happy Thursday!

Wednesday, September 1, 2021

Empty Nesters

Note: this post was written last week, before I got sick with a flu-like bug (I've been tested for COVID, and it was negative) or what might even be a case of Lyme disease. Yesterday, because I was still ill and getting worse, I made the decision to stay behind so that my kids wouldn't be stuck in a vehicle for five hours with me and my germs as they were embarking on a new school year. Only DW accompanied them to the Greater Toronto Area (GTA).


I have so few recent family portraits. My kids, now 20 and 18, are so reluctant to posing for a photo that I've all but given up. The last family snapshot was taken almost a year ago, as we dropped our elder child off at her school in the GTA.


Today, however, we're dropping both kids off at their respective institutions of higher learning. Both are in the GTA, which makes the trip easier for DW and myself, and we're glad that they're no more than a half hour or so, by GO Train, from one another.

Today, we drop our younger child at her dorm; tomorrow, our elder kid is scheduled to check back in to her residence building. DW and I plan to stick around the GTA, visiting friends and ensuring our kids are settled in, before heading back home.

Just the two of us.

It will be strange, being at home without the kids, especially since our younger one was mostly confined to the house during the height of the pandemic.

Both kids have stated that they will probably not come home for Thanksgiving, in October, and may not even come home for their respective reading weeks, in November. So DW and I are contemplating finding a place to stay, in Toronto, over the Thanksgiving weekend, and dining out in the GTA with our kids.

The impact of being empty nesters won't likely sink in for a few more days, after we return home. It'll be quieter in the house—we've had both girls home since April—and dinners will be smaller.

DW and I will have only ourselves to turn to for keeping the house clean (heck, it'll probably stay cleaner for longer!).

One thing is certain: we'll miss our girls dearly.